This is it.
This is the last one.
The more I rationalize it, the more I realize that this is for sure going to work. Isn’t that how life works? Right when you finally give up, everything falls into place?
I’ve been going to fertility acupuncture three times a week and after waiting what seems like forever… my uterine lining is finally thick enough to get going with this frozen transfer. We have two popsicles left (aka frozen babies). The transfer is going to be on my Dad’s birthday, September 3rd so that has to be good luck right?
September 2nd, I get the call from the clinic to update me on the status of the thawing of our children. Bad news. Again. Why this continues to surprise me, I’m not sure. But sometimes it makes me laugh that I think something is going to happen how it is supposed to. One of the two embryos has all but died in the thaw. The other, however, is doing great. Well… we’re down to 1 embryo. But that’s all it takes, right? Dan spent the next several hours trying to calm me down. We only need one embryo to make this work. This IS the one.
September 3, 2013- I head in for for the first of the two acupuncture appointments. These are ‘special’ so of course they cost extra- 2 treatments in one day for only $325.00. Well, considering we’re paying $1500 for the transfer, another couple grand for the fertility meds, we’re paying storage for the embryps, plus $250 a week for acupuncture this far… what another $325? It’s only money… right? :s
The traditional Chinese doc says to stay warm and to drink warm fluids. Ok, off we go to Tim’s to wait until it’s time to head to clinic. I have a French Vanilla Cappuccino and try to relax. Dan hops back in the car and we cruise on over to the clinic. Holding hands the whole way, we do the hand squeeze- you know, the holding hands hand squeeze that is means we have each others back. And we do.
The transfer was fairly uneventful. I changed into the hospital gown, Dan helped me onto the table and into the leg straps. In proper FET fashion, I was about to pee my pants due to the required full bladder. They confirmed the embryos were ours and the ultrasound tech started to manoeuvre the wand around my abdomen. My favourite RE (other than our doc) was on, and my favourite ultrasound tech was in the room with us. This had to mean something positive right? With Dan holding my hand, the doc inserted the catheter into my uterus and with the tech’s guidance, measured the perfect distance from the top of my uterus to place the embryos.
They told us where to look and counted to three. 1, 2, 3…. out came a burst of white just a couple millimeters from the top of uterus. They transferred both embryos. The one hadn’t officially ‘arrested’ yet so there was no harm in placing that one in too. It was over faster than it started.
There. Done. I was now officially pregnant. 😀
After waiting a minute of so for everything to settle, I hopped off the table and ran to the washroom to empty my bladder. I felt so cheery and excited. I went to the tech to get our ultrasound of the babies, and she said she hadn’t realized that we wanted one. Looking disappointed I looked at Dan- with an encouraging smile he said we had pictures for the other rounds, so maybe this round was going to be different for us. Yes, we’d done this several times now. .. I just knew that this was the one. The transfer went so smoothly and the 1 embryo was top quality. Dan drove me back to the acupuncturist and he completed the second treatment for the day.
As I lay there on the bed listening to calming music my mind drifted to all of the excitement to come. The announcements, the nursery, would it be a boy or a girl? After an hour in the dark room with needles sticking out of me every which way, he came in and instructed me to stay warm. Whatever that meant. I went home and rested for the rest of the day. I had minimal cramping and stayed all snuggled up in cozy pj’s and in my bed. Keeping warm as instructed.
Since this was the last shot, I was pulling out all the stops- women on fertility forums always were talking about eating a pineapple core after the transfer. Apparently some nutrient in the core is supposed to aid in the implantation of the embryo. Yep, you know you’re officially desperate when you are crunching down pineapple cores swearing it’s going to help you get pregnant. If there was a chance it was going to help, then sign me up. We bought two pineapples and cut the cores into 5 segments for the 1st five days after the transfer.
I spent the next day taking it easy and working from home. I wasn’t going to risk any extra stress or activity for this one. It was so hard to keep focused on work. Suddenly, everything baby was so much more interesting than grievances and LTD appeals. Gender reveal parties (yes- I secretly want one- I’m a loser!), baby shower themes, and what to pack when you’re heading to the hospital were suddenly priorities. One day down… thirteen more to go until my beta test.
I went back to work the next day. Trying to keep myself busy enough to forget about the miniscule baby who was either digging its way into my uterine lining… or not. Impossible. Still eating my pineapple core, I was also continuing to go to acupuncture on the schedule the traditional Chinese doc had recommended.
By 3 days post transfer I found myself wandering through the pregnancy section of Indigo. There were so many books to choose from. To be honest, I already owned several of them. But I was sucked into the aisle and couldn’t leave. I picked out the most detailed book I could find (which my friend later referred to as ‘the encyclopedia of all things pregnancy’). It was pricey, and knowing we were seriously short on cash I had a sudden pang of guilt. I called Dan and asked if I could spend $60 on this amazing pregnancy book that I absolutely needed(!). My rationale was that it started from the last day of your last cycle- so I would get an entire chapter of my ‘pregnancy’ day by day. Even though a lot of the things described were forced through science (egg retrieval, fertilization, transfer) I could read all about the development and what was happening inside me. I walked to the cashier and she smiled and asked if the book was a gift- I said no not really getting where her question was leading… She suddenly had this megawatt smile and said, “Congratulations! It must be SO exciting! I love seeing newly pregnant women when they are buying their first book!”. Unsure what to say next, I smiled and muttered a thank you and avoided eye contact at all costs. Was I a fake?… there was a baby inside of me, I just wasn’t sure whether it wanted to stay yet.
I got home and instead of making dinner I became fully engrossed in the science and miracles behind pregnancy. The neat part was that this book actually talked about IVF and what stages lined up with the natural cycles etc. I was legit allowed to read the whole first chapter in ‘preparing’ yourself for pregnancy etc and caught up to seven days after fertilization. Crunching on a pineapple core I was fascinated by the corresponding pictures and details. It just seems so crazy that a person can actually just have sex and make a baby- all the moving parts that have to align so perfectly, it baffles me. Here I am with science doing every single little thing for us, all my body had to do was accept the little guy and let it burrow into my uterine lining. The more I thought about it, the more I was certain this round was going to work. My new nightly routine was set- I was going to read where our embryo was in it’s growth each night before bed.
Days four and five post transfer were fairly unexciting. I continued eating the pineapple core and reading about the development of our embryo. On day six, everything changed.